I even bought the bedside tables (with drawers for our enlightenment material) and cute little lamps.
I envisioned peaceful evenings where one of us would pause, finger marking the spot, and share insightful nuggets that would precipitate growth and emotional intimacy.
Reality is far different.
Exhausted from herding the short people through after school practices, homework, dinner, chores (need a cattle prod to get them through those) and general cleanup, I fall onto the couch next to my bleary-eyed hunk and stare at the scenes flashing across the TV.
We stay up too late because we're too tired to go to bed.
So rather than sharing insightful truths, we are treading sleep-deprived waters, frantically trying to make it to shore before we hit the teenage rapids around the bend.
The only growth I'm getting is the hair on my legs.
What I am learning is to roll with the punches. Life on the edge of insanity is only a season (a very long eighteen year season).
And one day we'll look at each other and wonder what all the fuss was about.